How To Overcome Hesitation And Just Go For It
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What Causes Hesitation
Mel Robbins said, “When you hesitate, you're seeking validation, but validation only comes when you take action.” I wrote on Mel Robbins’ amazing 5 Second Rule here after enrolling in one of her classes on CreativeLive. BTW, Creative Live is offering up 25% off all of their classes until Sunday so check them out! This class of Mel’s is an insightful take on what causes hesitation. I’ll stop hesitating now, and dive into it.
Self-Doubt Triggers
Self-doubt creates a triggers and the first one causes you to hesitate as if you were trapped. It also triggers uncertainty and so you start actively waiting - for the perfect time to go out and get that job you’ve always wanted, pick up the phone to mend a relationship or live the healthy lifestyle you’ve wanted for years now. You’re actively waiting in your mind which means you’re also actively not doing it. And that’s the point, the “perfect time” never really comes.
“I act on my impulses, but then I freeze and I don't follow through. It's so frustrating because I know I'm the problem. The harder I try the more complicated I make everything. Because you're not doing anything, right? You're up here. I overwhelm myself and feel guilty and stupid, I give up. I just wish I could smack myself and get out of my own way,” from Robbins’ class. Raise your hand if you’ve been there? I see you. Don’t worry - I got two hands raised cause this girl needs God’s help getting out of my own way everyday!
If you want to level up, you have to get out of your own way. Get out of your head. It will only lead to additional anxiety especially if your mind is swirling with negative thoughts. No matter how you feel, by taking action, you will be growing just by doing so and as you continue to grow you will be closer to achieving what you want or becoming who you want to be as a person.
“One of the secrets to great success is to change your perspective on failure. You see, everyone experiences failures before they ultimately succeed. Some let their failures stop them. Some keep trying. ”
Go For It
A lot of hesitation, I think, comes from fear. Fear of rejection, inadequacy, failure or embarrassment. As a society, we often correlate our identity directly with our work. When a guy can no longer play in the league or you get fired from your day job your whole identity - the essence of who you are is stripped away because that’s who you were… work. And without it, who are you? “You're not putting you out there, you're putting your work and your story, you're putting a story out,” said Robbins.
How do you overcome hesitation? No more hiding and actively waiting which can lead to you feeling helpless. Walk through your fear, get out of your comfort zone and move forward on your path - the right path hurdling hesitation along the way.
Sign up for Mel Robbins’ complete class on CreativeLive here.
